Soon you'll feel better, because you're not alone. This is how I felt when I married my exmo husband. It's also possible that deep down she's like many of us here, and her shelf will break and she'll want out. Do whatever it takes to at least learn from your relationship with your Mormon crush. I say, Follow your heart.
You don't have to believe them yourself, but you need that respect in thought as well as action, and you need to frame this as your own journey because you can only change yourself. He will come to you. We'll have to discuss that, now that I actually know some things about some things. It's winter here and I figured she was layering for warmth. It's a less common occurrence, but it happens. We see each other about once every ten days, or times a week at most when his schedule is lighter. Find a good man first, one that you can trust and feel comfortable building a future with, and then worry about the profession later. In fact, your GF is probably one of the countless Mormon women who get married only to find out they have zero sex drive because of what they learned growing up. Due to their religious teachings, Mormons do not smoke, drink alcohol or caffeinated "hot drinks" coffee or tea or do drugs. I have many friends and members of my family who married within the church and later divorced.
You just have to decide if the payoff is worth it. Many, many lapsed Mormons catch the true vision of the gospel at some time in their lives and desire to repent and become observant again. And if you do belong to a ward full of cretins, you must do everyone a favor and just ignore them until they go extinct. Best wishes to those struggling with these big, life-altering decisions. I've never understood that bit of the LDS culture. I have a friend who identifies as bi-gendered and often feels most comfortable in femme. We moved city over 6 months ago which was in the best interests of her career as well as mine.
I'm glad you both have found a way to get past the incredible forces that are working against you. It is not something that should be taken lightly. I can understand his desire to spend time together to reconnect, but right now it really isn't there.